When’s the Last Time You Did This?

In the words of the great Barnett R. Brickner,  “Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.”  I too believe this notion.  So I ask this of you, when was the last time you looked your mate in the eyes and sincerely told him/ her that you love them, they are beautiful, that you appreciate all they do?  believe it or not, most people forget such a simple thing.  I mean they are just words, right?  WRONG!

It appears that in some cases, after a relationship has reached past it’s 3rd or 4th year, some people feel their purpose for being in the relationship or marriage  is obvious.  The typical, ” I’m here right?” or ” Of course I love you” should light a bulb in your head and tell you, it’s time to spark up the relationship.  Why wait until Valentine’s Day, or a special occasion just to show appreciation?  It doesn’t even have to be expensive. 

An old friend of mine converted his studio apartment as his then girlfriend’s favorite bistro and cooked up her favorite dish.  Some one else I know ran a nice bubble bath with candles lit and oils after a hard day of work for their mate. If you want to be really extravagant, reservations to your favorite restaurant or a nice movie.  Now-a-days, it seems hitting the club is the new “dating scene” but it doesn’t have to be.  It’s great to hang with friends but in a relationship, you should always try to reconnect with one another no matter what.  This is a full proof way to keep the relationship alive and not let it dwindle into days watching your mate play Xbox all day while you give him/ her dirty looks from across the room, or hours on Facebook, Twitter or whatever social site has your interest while your mate feels neglected.  Once a person strays from that connection- it can be dangerous to the relationship.  Distractions appear to be blatant and along with it deceit, infidelity and betrayal.  That is the root of failure in a relationship. 

Think of how nice it feels to be told how much you are appreciated and share that joy and emotion with your mate.  From experience, it feels wonderful!  So do me a favor- tonight, tell your friends you have to reschedule and reconnect with your mate.  A nice massage, make it a Netflix night, download a movie from On Demand, get a bottle of wine and chill!

Do this twice then comment on my blog in the morning!

The Naked Blogger wants to know: What was the last time you did something romantic for your mate?


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